"Do not be unequally yoked together with
unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness?
And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ
with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? And what
agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of
the living God." 2 Corinthians 6:14-16 NKJV
Marriage Celebrants attached
to the Christian Brethren in WA
ask at your home assembly for the most local person.
Mr Sam Abouhaidar
Mr Robert Adair
Mr Phillip Ashton
Mr Phillip Brewster
Mr Moffat Lindsay
Mr Alastair McGregor
Mr Matthew Malcolm
Mr Graham Malthouse
Mr Alan Meers
Mr Terry Parsons
Mr Trevor Sholson
Mr David Smith
Mr Roy Wilkinson
Mr David Williams
List sourced from the
printed "IHS - In His Service" newsletter with thanks.
Sex, Marriage, & Fairytales
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Premarital counselling is very important. Imagine this:
It's six months after your wedding. Little things that you used to
think were "cute" are starting to really bug you. Your spouse isn't
quite as attentive as when you were first married. Your husband says
that money is "tight" and is starting to be a bit overbearing about
how much you are spending on fixing up the house. Or your wife is
already talking about wanting to start a family and you are just not
ready to think about being a father. You're Catholic and your spouse
is a Baptist. Neither of you realized how hard it would be to try to
find a church home that you could attend together. Your fairytale
image of marriage is crumbling in the face of the many problems that
your relationship is facing. Maybe you made a big mistake getting
married. After all, you were really young; you didn't realize what
you were getting into. You feel trapped. What now?
Marriage, with or without Christian premarital counselling, is a
challenging adventure that can be both rewarding and fulfilling if
it is characterized by unconditional commitment and sacrificial
love. But marriage is also a union of two individuals who have come
together from different families, each with a different set of
expectations concerning marriage. Both spouses have been shaped by
positive and negative experiences within their own childhood homes.
Because of this, each has a predetermined idea about how conflict
should be handled, the value of money management, religion, having
children, and what it means to love someone. Currently, a little
over half of all first marriages end in divorce. Sadly, couples that
marry without having premarital counselling are at much higher risk
of divorce. Those who have prepared for marriage by getting some
secular (non-Christian) premarital counselling are better off than
those who have had no preparation for marriage at all. So why is
Christian premarital counselling so important?
premarital counselling has glue!
Many forms of premarital
counselling will give instruction in dealing with basics, such as
finances, child rearing, and even basic communication skills.
secular premarital counselling will not provide the "glue"
that will help couples deal with conflict or the damaged emotions
that may follow chronic disappointment in each other, and in the
marriage relationship. Christian premarital counselling has
foundation - Christian premarital counselling is often offered
through the local church, or may be obtained through para-church
organizations that offer Christian counselling. It is designed to
teach couples about the truth about marriage, according to God's
Word, the Bible. Christian premarital counselling has Godly intent -
Christian premarital counselling prepares a couple seeking marriage
to enter into a relationship based upon sacrificial love for one
another, and to place the needs of others before the needs of self.
The Christian couple is encouraged to invite Jesus Christ to be not
only a personal Saviour, but also the third cord spoken of in
Ecclesiastes 4:12. Jesus becomes an integral partner in the
marriage. In times of marital difficulty due to conflict, hurt
feelings, financial struggles, or even more serious problems such as
infidelity, God calls each spouse within a Christian marriage to
repentance and a renewed commitment to the marriage.
So why is so important to seek Christian premarital counselling?
God's Word teaches that marriage is a covenant between a man and a
woman that is intended to last for life. Christian marriage is based
upon an unconditional commitment that takes the classic marriage vow
"till death do us part" very seriously.
one of the Elders of your local church, or the Pastor or Minister -
they will be able to steer
the right direction if unable to counsel you themselves.
Also see the resource list below.
Post-Marriage Counselling and
Counselling - The Purposes
Post-marriage counselling is a tool to help people in troubled
relationships learn to understand one another and God better. We
might think, "I don't need counselling. I can solve my own problems
just fine." But if you are here, visiting this site (All
About Life Challenges), it's likely you are in a situation that
would benefit from an outsider's perspective. Christian marriage
counselling can help you see what God wants from your marriage.
Christian marriage counselling generally involves three main areas:
1) problems or issues in general, such as difficulty communicating,
a loss of closeness, etc. 2) personal problems that develop or occur
within marriage. 3) loss of a sense of God's principles for
marriage. The need for marital counselling cannot be emphasized
enough, even for Christians, because we live in a world that often
encourages the destruction of marriage. As Christians, we
additionally recognize the presence of an enemy, on the prowl to
devour (1 Peter 5:8) marriages. From the beginning, marriage has
been part of God's plan for His creation, and Satan is vehemently
against this precious tradition. If we need evidence that we are in
trouble, just take a look at the divorce rate both in Christian and
Marriage Counselling - Problems or Issues
Christian marriage counselling seeks to address problems and issues.
If problems are not dealt with in a timely manner, they can fester
and bring further devastation to a marriage. While problems are
common to every marriage, Christians have the means to solve them.
Think of it as
deflecting a virus before it takes hold of our
bodies. An appropriate response may not prevent the virus, but it
can help us weather the storm and rebound stronger as a result. So
in marriage, it is important to recognize and acknowledge problems
early. Marriage counselling brings attention to these problems and
helps resolve them. Prevalent problems include poor communication, a
lack of closeness or intimacy, nagging, or anger. At the root of
many of these problems is pride. We often believe we can solve our
own problems. This can be aggravating in a marriage, especially when
one spouse recognizes a need for help and the other refuses. The
Bible tells us to examine ourselves (2 Corinthians 13:5). This
principle would also include marriages, so if there are issues that
need resolution, counselling is a godly choice. When spouses seek
the Lord and are open to counsel and wisdom, they bring hope to
their situation and show others that God can help them, too.
Problems may also be relational, a result of not knowing how to
interact, whether emotionally, intellectually, or physically. Other
serious problems that could develop might be lying, adultery,
pornography, emotional wounds, mental conditions, etc. When these
problems are not dealt with, they represent a potentially crushing
threat to the marriage.
Principles of Marriage
Christian marriage counselling helps us refocus on our priorities.
It's easy for us to get distracted and lose sight of what and who is
important. In addition to helping us find solutions to problems and
issues, Christian counselling can provide marital and
relationship-building techniques. By offering precepts from God's
Word, good Christian marriage counselling can help quench the
"viruses" that affect and harm our relationships. Christian marriage
counselling can help us deal with the problems that threaten to tear
apart our lives. Effective counselling reassures us that God cares
and that He desires to be a central part in our marriage. We can
learn principles from God's Word that will remind us in days to come
of God's ideals for husbands and wives (Ephesians 5:21-33; 1 Peter
3:1-11). Christian marriage counsellors share and encourage these
precepts. How is your marriage? Is there a virus threatening to take
hold? Does your relationship need realignment? Are you and your
spouse following a biblical precedent? If so, you need to
attend to the issues NOW!
one of the Elders of your local church, or the Pastor or Minister -
they will be able to steer
the right direction if unable to counsel you themselves. Also
see the resource list below.
Resource List on Pre-Marriage and
Christian marriage counselling books - Do they help?
Christian marriage counselling and personal relationship books can
be very helpful when trying to enrich your own marriage or help a
friend with his or her marriage. Nothing runs properly without good
maintenance, including relationships. Reading a book on the subject
would be a good first step. Consider the following
resources to help in your life journey:
Fit to Be Tied:
Making Marriage Last a Lifetime by Bill and Lynne Hybels.
A Woman After God's Own Heart by Elizabeth George.
The Act of Marriage by Tim and Beverly LaHaye.
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.
The Power of a Praying Wife/Husband Pack by Stormie Omartian.
If Only He Knew by Gary Smalley.
Becoming Soul Mates by Les and Leslie Parrott.
Communication: Key to Your Marriage by H. Norman Wright.
Books can be purchased at the stores
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